New research has discovered the key to happiness. Here's the formula:
H = S + C + V
H is your enduring happiness quotient. S is your genetic contribution. C is your life circumstances and V are factors under your voluntary control. According to the research, your life circumstances (C) only accounts for between 8 and 15%. Things under your voluntary control account for 40%. That's what the research gets people to change, the things under their control.
Some background from the article: Learned helplessness experiments on dogs showed that if you zap dogs with a shock that are allowed to escape will quickly learn to escape. If the dogs are not allowed to escape, they quickly give up and even when they are later allowed to escape, do not try. The interesting thing is that some dogs never give up. About one out of three dogs always try to escape even when there is no way available. Similar studies with people gave the same ratio. These are natural optimists (S in the formula above).
The researchers found there are three (intervention) techniques that work well to increase your happiness quotient over the long term:
- Gratitude Visits - Write and read a letter to someone from your past that you are grateful to.
- 3 Good Things - Each day write down three good things that happened for one week.
- Using Signature Strengths - Figure out your personal strengths and use your top strength in a different way each day for one week.
Participants in the research showed marked improvement in happiness that lasted a month for 1 above and 6 months for 2 and 3 above.
The researchers admit that it is not possible nor desirable to be happy all the time. But what is possible and is desirable is to ignore negativity when it is unproductive and heed it only when it is useful to do so.
The best approach is one he calls flexible optimism, in which a person learns to dispute unproductive, catastrophic thoughts but to listen to pessimistic ones and heed them when warranted.
Here's the site for the happiness research at University of Pennsylvania: Authentic Happiness